The Female Orgasm Black Book

To a woman, it’s during the space of time after you’ve cum that shows what you’re all about — whether you’re considerate, compassionate, intimate or romantic, or if you’re just a big selfish lug who, minutes after an orgasm, is already asleep and snoring.

What Are My Options?

When it comes to your post-climax activities, you’ve got about three ready options, each with their own consequences and rewards. Admittedly, each of these options has their own time and place, but when it comes to deciding which option you’ll choose to be your “norm”, consider carefully…

1. Rolling Over and Going to Sleep

A tempting option, I know — especially if you’ve spent the last hour heroically tending to her sexual needs. But, before you roll over and sleep, you’d better weigh your options…

Rewards: Well, you get some sleep, and some relaxation, but that’s about it. Sure, there are times when it’s in order. After a real marathon, if you’re both spent, it can be ideal. But even when you do go this route, try to snuggle up a bit (if only for a few minutes) before you start really snoozing.

Consequences: When it comes to your lover, this is about the second worst route you can go. You definitely do NOT want to make this your normal routine. If you do, you’ll either lose her respect or her attentions.

2. Getting Up And Doing Something Else

Another option, though perhaps not as tempting as a good nap, is running off to “seize the day” within moments of your orgasm. To be fair, this response is associated with the way our chemicals and hormones react after we orgasm.

Once we cum, we’re finally able to STOP thinking about sex and get back to the more mundane things in life. And though it may help you get your goals accomplished, she’ll more than likely be left less than pleased.

Rewards: The ego boost of making your lover cum, added to the satisfaction of your own orgasm can be fantastic fuel to get out there and “Get ‘er done!” You’ll have a little extra bounce to your step and your mood will be greatly improved, but maybe not hers…

Consequences: Remember how I said that the last option, falling asleep, was the second worst option? Well, as far as your lover is concerned, this one is THE worst option.

Why? Because to some women, hopping right up, getting dressing and running off can make them feel less like lovers and more like a mere “booty call.” Sure, if both of you already know that you’ve got plans for the day, or you’re running late for an appointment, you can let it slide. But, otherwise, for your sake, choose one of the following two options.

3. After Play

Want your lover to stay madly and completely in love with you?

Then don’t scrimp when it comes to what you do AFTER sex! To a woman, what you do after sex really shows her what you’re all about. The little things give her the small indications about what kind of man you are (and what she thinks you think about her).

Take the time for a little “after play” and enjoy your after-glow. You’d be amazed what an extra fifteen minutes can accomplish, so don’t take this opportunity for granted. So, get ready to snuggle up, share a few kisses and spend a little time talking, smiling and touching together.

This allows you to stay “connected” and strength the emotional bonds that lead to a healthy relationship — sexual, emotional and otherwise.

Tapping into this, and giving her the attention and respect she deserves means that you’ll have the key to making her want (and want to give) more sex the next time around.

Simply cuddling, talking, and “being” with her physically and emotionally after love making… combined with the fact that she thinks you’re responsible for her orgasms is like making little deposits in the “Desire” account.

The better she feels about her sexual experience with you this time, will create more desire to be with you next time.

So remember that psychologically during this stage, you’ll want to reinforce the positive sexual experience she just had, so when the cycle loops back into “Desire”, she’ll be thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want sex more often.

Not a bad deal for an extra 15 minutes of time, don’t you think? ☺

CHAPTER 10

Routines

In this section, I’ll introduce you to some of the routines that I regularly use. I’ve divided them up into “Beginner”, “Intermediate” and “Advance”.

You’ll find that the general outlines of all the routines are the same. They follow the different phases (Seduction, Sensation, Surrender and Reflection) and stages (Desire, Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution) of the blueprint. In other words, the overall “strategy” to female orgasms is the same, while the “tactics” can vary.

You’ll also notice that within each section of the beginner, intermediate and advance routines, many of the “what to do’s” are the same. For example, the routines all have the same massaging sequence. I purposely made this the same, because they work in achieving the goals of each section.