The Female Orgasm Black Book

• Have intercourse (check out the “Best Sex Positions” special report for this one.)

• Give her more orgasms (through oral, fingering, a combination of both, or through intercourse).

CHAPTER 8

Phase III: Surrender

More on Orgasms

You’ve set up a relaxing atmosphere, gave her a massage, labial massage, oral sex, G-spot, blended… and taken her to at least 3 orgasms.

Since we’ve already touched on the subject of how-to techniques to bring a woman to an orgasm in the previous chapter, this chapter will focus on some of the finer details of the pre-orgasm, and the orgasm.

Pre-Orgasm: What to Expect, and What to Do

Just moments before she has an orgasm, you’ll notice that her breathing gets deeper, she starts sweating, vagina contracts more often, and her body begins to tense up and relax.

This is the transition from the Plateau stage, where you’re building up the sexual tension, to the Orgasm, where she’s about to release the tension.

The “Pre-Orgasm” is where, I believe, most people reach.

They’ve built up the sexual tension to the point of where she’s on the brink of having an orgasm…but all of a sudden, it’s gone!

Here are some very important points to remember to guarantee that she’ll successfully have an orgasm:

Maintain Stimulation!

Whatever you’re doing up until this point, hold steady and maintain what you’re doing… don’t change! Maintain contact, speed, rhythm, pressure etc.

Often times couples will either go faster, slower, or stop altogether when she’s close to having an orgasm. But… the trick that if it’s working already, don’t change a thing.

The orgasm will fall into place if you maintain what has been working so far.

Don’t Change Positions!

Whether you’re performing oral sex on her, fingering, or having intercourse, during the time right before an orgasm she might be tempted to move. Don’t let her!

What you’re doing is literally overwhelming her with physical pleasure. It’s almost like there’s TOO much sexual tension injected into her, and she wants to release it somehow. What you want is the tension to be released as an orgasm, but sometimes, women might squirm, and move around.

If she moves to a different position, whatever it is you’re doing won’t feel as good sexually. This build up of sexual tension and pleasure has stopped, and she’ll no longer feel overwhelmed by physical pleasure… but… this is not what you (or what she) wants! You want to drive her over the edge!

Mindset—She Has to Let Go

When you know that she’s very close to having an orgasm, you need to encourage her that it’s okay to just let go, and not to trap those feelings inside.

It might even be the case that she’s afraid of urinating from G-spot stimulation (more on this below). If this is so, she’ll tense up as if she was holding in her urine, and she’ll likely not be able to experience an orgasm. She has to be relaxed, and feel comfortable even if she does expel a little bit of fluid from her body (it’s not urine though!)

Make Sure She’s Not Holding Her Breath

Finally, do a quick check to make sure that she’s not holding her breath. She’s got to breathe in order to cum.

Though she might not realize it, by holding her breath, she’s inadvertently holding back her orgasm. If you notice that holding her breath is habitual, you might want to gently coach her to take in a few slow, deep breaths.

Orgasm: What You Need to Do

Once she’s having an orgasm, the main indicators you’ll see are spasms, or, involuntary contractions of her body, and most importantly, her vaginal muscles.

Again…

Maintain what you’re doing!

The techniques you have been using have brought you this far and you want to “squeeze out” every last bit of her orgasm as possible.

Also, with the continued stimulation during orgasm, she’ll have a more intense orgasm as opposed to if you simply stopped.

The only time you should stop is when her orgasm is complete, and the involuntary bodily contractions has ceased.