Women are not unicorns

I couldn’t imagine that I have a young wife who works hard for my subordinates, then returns home tired and angry, doesn’t want to have sex, or does it without a soul. Doesn't cum. Forgive me for my directness, but it seems to me that we have already become close friends here and have thrown away all boundaries of decency. Such a wife is constantly tense, rarely and poorly cooks due to lack of time, does not play sports and has neglected herself a little, dresses robotically, without excitement or zest, constantly growls at her employees like a Cerberus, and then complains to me about everyone. Sometimes he throws hysterics and asks for understanding.

You know, Vladislav then proposed to me and married me. But after three months we separated. He forced himself to reward the employee, not his woman. The roles are mixed up. After all, it was wise to give a bonus to a subordinate and leave. And calm the wife down, smooth her, revive her femininity and wait until she loves herself. And then propose to your wife.

Then the breakup would not have happened. Because we were both on edge. Perhaps it would take years of rest to consciously decide on marriage. We forced events and forcibly signed.

And in our case, this still played into my hands (later I’ll tell you what I’m talking about), but it brought harm to many others in the same situation; they separated in the first three years of marriage.

People should become better for their sweethearts, meaning that they are doing it for themselves.

And in the end, look at this: if you have become better, others will begin to look at you, not just your man, they will begin to envy him, many would like such a wife.

And if, after ten years of marriage, nurturing yourself, improving, you suddenly find yourself alone, divorced or widowed, then other men will stand in line and you will choose the best of them.

You definitely won't be left alone.

It’s even better if the divorced husband remains a friend and praises you to his friends.

Then Brad Pitt himself may choose you as his wife, or the one you have dreamed of since childhood, thinking it was unrealistic.

When I hire a new employee, I always find out from his former employers what kind of results this guy brought to them. And I take it only if there is a confirmed significant result.

Likewise, people should choose their spouses.

If he throws mud at his ex, he will most likely do the same after you break up.

If he praises her, but is no longer in love, then firstly, the same will happen in your attitude. Secondly, apparently she was a good woman.

— How did she influence you?

— Well, I was just a builder. And she believed in me. And now I have a construction company.

— Excellent result.

If he had told this on her social network (although someone would say “this is ridiculous”), then the poor girl would no longer be like that, she immediately began to be in demand, and being selective about this issue, she married the director at least, and maybe a major investor, young and sexy, faithful and doting on her.

Married girls, now ask your boyfriend a question: “How did I help you?” If you know the answer, but he is silent, then something is wrong. Either you crossed out all your achievements with constant criticism and reminding him of your merits, or you really didn’t do anything.

It's time to change, ladies, that's what I tell myself. It is advisable to marry yourself every day to remind yourself to become a better person.

Here, by the way, it is important not to overdo it, otherwise especially impressionable people will begin to reproach themselves for imperfection.

It’s not worth it, I’m not a tyrant to drive you into complexes. I'm on your side. I also have cellulite. I come from a poor family and have achieved everything in this life through my own labor, and not through the money of my parents or husband.

By the way, we were both broke when we started living together in Krasnodar. He was in a financial crisis then, I just believed in him and that’s all.

So, if any of you now snorted, saying that she allows herself to force us to be something for the sake of someone who may be cheating on me, or will betray me in marriage, who is not ideal himself, then let’s do it again I’ll write figuratively.

Here you have an image of an ideal. He is unconditionally loyal to you, decency itself and there is nothing to complain about (by your standards). Of course you're fine with the fact that he farts occasionally (oh, my favorite word in this book, the editor will say), but he doesn't have any flaws that annoy you personally.

Now you see a real man. You check. Almost there. But how it really is, life will show. You imagined a drawn image, placed it like a mask on your beloved, and moved in there.

Where?

In the mask.