The Female Orgasm Black Book

There are many different ways that you can choose to enter into oral sex with your partner, but it really helps to know which are worth the effort. When it comes to getting yourself positioned, you need to be able to comfortably apply consistent, rhythmic pressure over an often extended period of time. She, on the other hand, has to be positioned so that she’s able to relax into her arousal.

Perhaps one of the biggest reasons that more of us men don’t go down on our lovers as often as they might like results from the physical strain and pain that stems from entering into oral sex from the wrong position.

Her Body:

• Flat on her back (not arched)

• Legs spread a comfortable distance apart (but not too wide-it’ll be easier for her to use her pelvic muscles)

• Legs bent at the knees

• Her vulva and labia should be pointed upwards, at an angle, towards your mouth

• She should be completely at ease and relaxed, with nothing to do but focus on the physical and mental pleasure you’re about to bring her.

Your Body:

• Position your body so that it is in a straight line with her body

• Your nose should be lightly buried in her mons

• Upper lip resting on the front edge of her pubic bone

• Your upper lip should be above her clitoral head

• Tongue should be able to rest on the vaginal entrance

Once you’re both in this position, you should be able look at each other in the eyes while you’re performing oral sex on her.

If you’re finding that your neck is straining in this position, what you can do is place a pillow underneath her buttocks. This will elevate her pelvis, bringing her vulva closer to you. You won’t have to bend your head back as much, taking off the strain from your neck.

I used to use a pillow all the time, but I found that a pillow becomes ineffective and a pain-in-the-ass after a while because it compresses, I had to constantly buy new pillows because they were soaked from her ejaculations, and typically found myself without a pillow at night!

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Now that you’re both in position, let’s get started.

Step 1: First Contact

You want to make the first lick to be a memorable one. The Setup will build more sexual tension and anticipation for your first lick, and it’ll leave her wanting more.

The Setup

1. Perform a series of kisses on her left outer lip, from top to bottom. Take it slow, and don’t rush!

2. Next, do the same thing on the right side

3. Perform a series of kisses on her left inner lip, from top to bottom.

4. Next, do the same thing on the right side

5. Take about 1 second per kiss, and try to cover the entire area with your kisses (in other words, you don’t want to kiss at the top, leave a huge gap, and kiss the bottom of the lip)

The Long Lick

1. Place your tongue on her frenulum (the base of her vagina).

2. VERY SLOWLY, lick upwards, running past her vaginal opening, and inner lips

3. As you past the clitoral head, lighten up the pressure from your tongue.

4. Keep on going up until your tongue is directly over her clitoral hood. You should feel her clitoral shaft underneath the hood with your tongue at this point.

Apply more pressure on the shaft, and slowly move your tongue from the left side to the right side of her clitoral hood…slight stimulation, but you’re going to take it away

5. Now move your tongue downwards towards the base.

6. After you’ve reached the frenulum, let your tongue rest upon the entire length of her vaginal entrance and vulva.

Key point to remember:

• Don’t rush this! Think of your tongue as a snail, moving super slow across her vulva.

• The timing you want to aim for is about 10 seconds up, 2 seconds pause on her clitoral hood, and then 10 seconds down.

• Tip: as you’re licking, count 10s-2s-10s in your head!

Step 2: Establishing Rhythm

During this step you’ll work with 3 licking patterns.

Pattern 1: Lick-Rest Cycle

1. Starting with your tongue on the base of her vaginal entrance, slowly lick up until you’ve passed the clitoral head and are on top of the clitoral hood, then lick downwards to the starting position. It should take 5 seconds to complete a full lick.

2. With a flat, still tongue, let it rest on her vulva for 5 seconds.

3. Repeat these steps 20 times.

Pattern 2: 5 Half-way Licks, 1 Full Lick Cycle

1. Lick up half-way, and then lick back down. You won’t be going over the clitoris during this lick. Repeat 5 times.

2. Add in one full lick, going over the clitoris.

3. Repeat these steps 20 times

Pattern 3: Random Half-way and Full Licks

This time, your tongue is going to go over the clitoral head randomly. This will drive her crazy, because your licking “pattern” should be unpredictable!

When you’re at this pattern, be playful, and really focus on teasing her clitoris.