Лучшей маме. Пять шагов, чтобы избавиться от чувства вины и преодолеть эмоциональное выгорание

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9. Jean M. Twenge, W. Keith Campbell, and Craig A. Foster, “Parenthood and Marital Satisfaction: A Meta-Analytic Review,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 65, no. 3 (August 2003): 574–83, https://www. jstor. org/stable/3600024; Esther S. Kluwer, “From Partnership to Parenthood: A Review of Marital Change Across the Transition to Parenthood,” Journal of Family Theory and Review 2, no. 2 (June 2010): 105–25, https://doi. org/10.1111/j.1756–2589.2010.00045. x.

10. Douglas and Michaels, Mommy Myth, 6.

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13. Caroline Picard, “Gen Zers and Millennials Have Very Different Ideas of What It Means to Be the ‘Perfect Parent,’” What to Expect, February 16, 2023, https://www. whattoexpect. com/news/first-year/gen-z-millennials-perfect-parent.

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Глава вторая. Заботьтесь о себе так же, как вы заботитесь о своих детях

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Глава четвертая. Шаг 1. Познавайте себя и других

1. Jean Laplanche and Jean-Bertrand Pontalis, “Compulsion to Repeat (Repetition Compulsion),” in The Language of Psychoanalysis (1967; repr., New York: Routledge, 2018), 19.

Глава пятая. Шаг 2. Скорректируйте то, во что верите