The Female Orgasm Black Book

I think it’s important to interrupt for a moment to address those readers out there who are in long-lasting relationships: don’t think that just because you’ve lived together, gotten married or even started a family that it’s “okay” to devote less of your time and attention to this phase of your lover’s sexual response. It’s a route that can lead to all sorts of obstacles and road-blocks to a satisfying sexual intimacy.

Just because the lover in your life may have been sleeping with you for years (or even decades!) that doesn’t mean that she’s suddenly lost the need for the flirtations and sweet temptations that help build sexual tension and frustration (the good kind!)

The more worked up you’re able to get her BEFORE you head to the bedroom, the more eager and responsive your lover will be. Indeed, the longer you’ve been with your partner (and the more of your crap she’s had to put up with) the more important it is to be sure you’ve properly covered this base.

How to Create (Sexual) Attraction

The first step in the Seduction phase is creating attraction.

NOTE: Since I’m assuming you already have a partner that you’re having sex with, I’m not going to dive into the topic of “how to attract and date women” (you can find a few helpful websites in my resources section).

But the attraction tips I’m going to share with you can work on any woman, but is specifically designed for your partner.

How to Use Eye Contact To Create Attraction

The very first thing that draws your partners’ attention to you is eye contact. Her response to the right kind of eye contact is automatic: attraction.

The level of attraction can vary from women to women. Eye contact can simply spark a bit of sexual interest to full blown sexual desire where she’s physically aroused and wants to have sex with you.

Generally, making and holding eye contact with someone else shows that you’re at ease with the other person, and that you’re not intimidated. When your partner sees that you’re making and holding eye contact with her, she’s going to feel that you’re confident about yourself… and… the wheels of attraction are going to start turning.

Tips:

• What you want to do is look into her eyes whenever you’re talking, if she’s walking past you, or whatever situation is appropriate. (You don’t want to constantly look into her eyes while the both of you are watching a movie…that would be weird).

• When you’re holding the eye contact with her, don’t have a wide-eyed stare (you want to her believe you’re a confident man, not a creep!).

• Instead, you want to be gazing in to her eyes.

To do this:

1. Open your eyelids so that they’re about 75% open. If they’re open 100% (i.e. You’ve opened up your eyes as wide as possible), you’re going to have that scary looking stare. If they’re open too small, you’re only going to look tired, or even intoxicated. At the 75% mark is the right “look”. You’ll have that “seductive look” that you might see in the movies.

2. Tilt your head downward slightly, so that your chin is closer to your chest. This slight tilting of the head will communicate that you’re sexually interested…this will push her buttons, and she’ll start feeling this too! (On the other hand, if you tilt your head upwards instead, you’re expressing that you’re looking down at her, and she’ll think you’re a cocky bastard. Don’t do this.)

Here’s a few examples of the seductive eyes look:

3. Try not to blink too much. If you have to, blink very slowly. If you’re constantly blinking while keeping eye contact, that’s a sign of nervousness, and she’s going to feel that “vibe” from you. Once this happens, the attraction will be lost. No blinking or slow blinking is a sign of confidence.

4. Lastly, don’t break eye contact until she does! Subconsciously, she will think that you’re the one in control of the relationship, and that you are the “man”.

How to Create Sexual Desire in the Bedroom

With eye contact, you’re already creating sexual desire in her mind. In other words, you’ve started to get her to think of sex.

But I’m going to show you how to increase it even more by making some small changes in your bedroom.

The way the body responds to the environment (in this case, the bedroom) can have a huge impact on her level of arousal.

Also, the double benefit of the environment we’re going to create is relaxation. Remember from the keys to success, if she’s tense and not relaxed, it’s going to be almost impossible for her to have an orgasm.

There will be a little bit of preparation work for this, so you want to do this before initiating any physical activity.

Setting the Stage: Creating an Environment of Desire…

3 main points we’re going to cover: lighting, sound and smells.

1. Lighting

Love making in full light might be appealing to men (and some women), but for the sake of relaxation (and ultimately orgasm) the lights must be dim.