The Female Orgasm Black Book

This can be accomplished with candles, but I personally prefer a simple bedside lamp with an incandescent light bulb (too paranoid something might catch on fire!) I’ve recently experimented with more fancy lighting devices, such as lava lamps, plasma lamps, and fiber optic lamps. They work equally as well (if not better) as a regular lamp.

2. Music

Sounds and music have a distinct ability to invoke powerful imagery and emotion. If this is an aspect you’ve overlooked in the past, you’d be simply amazed at the potential results.

Work on creating a killer play-list of passionate, sensual music. I have the best results with ambient, meditative or natural tunes. Thunderstorms, rainforest rhythms, or even sounds of ocean waves have vast potential for bringing your lover to new heights.

3. Scents

Lastly, to add spice to your arousing atmosphere, you’re going to use fragrances.

This is a powerful (almost evil) secret when used properly… Pleasurable smells can change a person’s mood almost instantly (especially when combined with the dim lighting effects and the right music).

But… here’s the secret: What you want to do here is train your partner to get sexually excited whenever she smells a fragrance by associating a particular smell with orgasms.

What you want to do is build a “scent memory” of the experience. So, the next time she smells that fragrance, it will bring back memories powerful enough to elicit an emotional response… and send her libido flying through the roof… instantly!

IMPORTANT: Be sure that whatever scent you use, that you ONLY use it during love making. This way, it will be the only association she’ll have with the scent.

There are many ways to use scents, but the most popular ones are:

• Incense

• Candles

• Aroma Jars

• Scented Oils

• Room Spray

What type of scent do you need? At first, anything that’s not repulsive. If she’s disgusted by the smell, she’s going to be totally turned off, and her desire may go down the drain.

You might have to try out a few different scents at first, but as long as her response is generally neutral, it should be fine. Remember, we’re trying to “teach” her that whenever she smells the scent, it means orgasms!

Scents you can try:

• Vanilla

• Patchouli

• Coconut

• Musk

• Jasmine

• Lavender

• Pumpkin pie

• Black licorice

Final Note On Desire:

You can increase her desire for sex if she has a positive sexual experience with you earlier. In other words, if she had an orgasm with you previously, then she’ll want to participate in sexual activities with you more!

On the other hand, her desire can decrease if she has a negative sexual experience with you. She’ll want to have sex with you less if this happens. You may have already experienced this already (which maybe why you’ve invested in this book in the first place).

So, essentially what you want to do after you have sex is reinforce the positive sexual experience she just had, increasing her desire for sex in the future. We’ll cover the topic in an upcoming chapter.

CHAPTER 6

Phase II: Sensation

Stage: Excitement

The trick to helping your lover release her orgasm under your control is to first get her in a state of total relaxation. In essence, you’ve got to help her unwind.

Before you want to set about increasing sexual tension, you need to first eliminate any stress. This will free your partner to focus her attention on the pleasure you’re bringing her instead of the report her boss needs on Friday or the dentist’s appointment scheduled for tomorrow morning.

Relaxation is great, but it’s a somewhat slippery slope.

Get her too relaxed and she’s likely to fall asleep. Don’t relax her enough and her mind will wander and her attention will stray. That’s why it’s a great idea to find ways to relax that will also ignite her passions. One of the best avenues to accomplish this is the art of massage.

The massage will be broken down into 2 sections: Massage and the Labial Massage.

One of the number one mistakes that many men make when it comes to their dedication to the idea of “giving” their woman an orgasm is neglecting to get her fully relaxed.

This likely stems from the fact that we tend to assume that women operate from the one-track focus that we do.

Obviously, we don’t require a state of tranquility to get off. Hell, in times of intense stress, our partners can merely start rubbing our penis and in a matter of minutes, we’re ready to blow.

And even if you are paired with a partner who doesn’t “require” the euphoric state of relaxation, that doesn’t mean that the results won’t make the walls rattle! Even the toughest of lovers will become INCREDIBLY aroused with the teasing tactics I’m about to reveal…

Covering the Basics: The Stages of Relaxation

Women (or men either, for that matter) don’t instantly go from a state of high anxiety to one of total relaxation.

It’s a process. And just like so many other processes, there are particular steps and phases that need to be explored…